Personal Space Quiz
Sidewalk Table
Sitting out where the street goes by, you enjoy the breeze and wave easily to lots of passersby.
A sidewalk table sits outside the café, facing the street. There are no walls, the breeze blows through, and you can wave to friends passing by or have them stop for a minute. You, too, know lots of people and like being among a crowd, but you leave enough space between you and each person for a breeze to pass.
When invited, you happily drop by; when you want to go home, you happily get up and leave. You don't get too close or stay too far, so people from all sorts of circles call on you. Just as there's always someone at the sidewalk tables, there's never a shortage of people around you.
At a sidewalk table, people swap quick updates in passing more than they have deep talks. When you want a deeper conversation, it starts when you invite someone to a table a little further inside. Precisely because you usually leave some space, the person you invite feels they've been specially asked.
Strengths
- You can drop in on all sorts of gatherings without any fuss
- You leave room for yourself and for others, so relationships rarely feel heavy
- With one light word, you can welcome someone who seems unsure about joining in
Where you may stumble
- You keep about the same distance with everyone, so you're thrown when someone brings you something serious
- As you keep saying yes to invitations, your calendar fills up and your alone time disappears
- People you'd like to get closer to may think you're still keeping them at arm's length
Sounds familiar, Sidewalk Table?
- When you walk through town, you run into someone you know at least twice
- You end up dropping in on about half the gatherings you're invited to
- You arrive at get-togethers partway through and leave partway through
Where you shine
Gatherings where people come and go, getting along with neighbors, and the welcome desk at an event. Just as a café with sidewalk tables looks easy to walk into, when you're around, the way in gets wider.
Tips for “Sidewalk Table”
- Pick one person you know and make plans to meet one-on-one
- When someone brings you a problem, don't answer right away — take one step further in: “So what happened then?”
- Decide your free days first, and only accept invitations outside them
Matches
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Communal Table — The Communal Table also loves a crowd. When the Communal Table builds the circle and the Sidewalk Table adds its come-and-go air, you get a gathering anyone can join.
Window Counter — The Window Counter also leaves comfortable space. You share a way of being close without clinging, so even when you only meet now and then, you can relax.
Booth — The Booth wants to be close and deep with a few particular people. Each time the Sidewalk Table widens things to “everyone,” the Booth can feel its time with you is being taken lightly.
Which one are you? 12 everyday situations, about 2 minutes.
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